3 Steps to Overcome Inner Conflict to Reclaim Your Energy And Peace

In your mind, quietly,

Battles rage silently.

You feel disempowered due to the misalignment of your goals and actions. Your conflicting attitudes and behaviors result in a storm of inner turmoil that depletes your vitality and drains your energy. Imagine yourself stuck with unfulfilled desires and the unresolved complexities of your inner world that weigh you down with uncertainty and distorted vision.

Unaddressed inner conflicts make you struggle in your daily life, clouding your clarity and causing feelings of frustration and fatigue that are taking a toll on your well-being.

According to recent studies, approximately 85% of people report experiencing inner conflict, with 40% admitting it significantly impacts their daily lives (Smith et al., 2021).
These conflicts manifest in various forms, from the struggle to balance work and personal life to the clash between deeply held values and societal expectations. They are taking a toll on our well-being as these conflicts remain unaddressed. Research conducted by Johnson and Smith (2019) reveals a direct correlation between unresolved inner conflicts and decreased energy levels, with individuals reporting heightened feelings of fatigue and lethargy.
Furthermore, the psychological burden of cognitive dissonance — the discomfort of holding conflicting beliefs or attitudes — can lead to heightened stress and anxiety, exacerbating the cycle of inner turmoil.

But amidst the chaos lies hope — a path to resolution and renewal. You can embark on a journey of self-discovery and healing by embracing the following 3 steps, backed by scientific principles and evidence-based strategies:

Step One

Expand Awareness

Your first step is to identify the source causing inner turmoil and cognitive dissonance.

You feel discomfort when your behavior does not align with your values or beliefs. Introspection helps you recognize your conflicting beliefs, values, or behaviors. You can also seek guidance from a coach, therapist, or mentor who can provide actionable strategies, boost your confidence, and help you build higher self-efficacy.

Self-reflection helps you expand your awareness and creates possibilities to overcome inner conflicts that sap your energy and vitality.

There was a classic experiment by Festinger and Carlsmith (1959).
In this experiment, participants who were engaged in a dull task were paid either $1 or $20 to tell a lie about its enjoyment. Those who were paid $1 experienced greater cognitive dissonance because their internal beliefs conflicted with their actions. Therefore, recognizing discrepancies between your beliefs and behaviors can lead to cognitive dissonance.
According to the research in psychology, the importance of self-awareness is emphasized in understanding your inner conflicts.

Step Two

Self-Compassion Practices

Research by Gilbert et al. (2017) defines compassion as “the sensitivity to suffering in self and others, with a commitment to try to alleviate and prevent it.”

Self-compassion is the heartfelt desire to alleviate suffering and to show kindness, empathy, and understanding towards self in the face of adversity or failure. It involves recognizing the pain, struggles, imperfections, and mistakes and being willing to take action to help without judgment or expectation of anything in return.

Cultivating self-compassion has profound effects on the following:

1. Improves Psychological Well-being

There was a study published in the Journal of Clinical Psychology (2017).

Individuals who participated in a self-compassion intervention reported reductions in depressive symptoms and increases in psychological well-being compared to a control group.

2. Reduces Negative Self-Judgment

Self-compassion helps you to cultivate a more balanced and realistic perspective on yourselves and your experiences.

Research published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology (2015) found that self-compassion was negatively associated with self-criticism and negative self-judgment

3 . Promotes Resilience

Self-compassion fosters resilience by providing you a buffer against the negative effects of stress and adversity.

A study published in the Journal of Positive Psychology (2018) found that self-compassion was positively associated with resilience, allowing individuals to bounce back more effectively from setbacks and challenges.

4. Enhances Emotional Regulation

Self-compassion helps you to regulate your emotions more effectively, leading to greater emotional well-being.

Research published in Emotion (2016) found that self-compassion was positively associated with emotional regulation abilities, such as cognitive reappraisal and expressive suppression.

5. Boosts Self-esteem and Self-worth

Self-compassion helps you to boost self-esteem and increase self-worth.

According to research published in the Journal of Personality (2019), self-compassion was positively associated with self-esteem and negatively associated with self-criticism.

6. Fosters Healthy Relationships

Self-compassion contributes to your healthier and more satisfying relationships with others.

A study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships (2018) found that self-compassion was positively associated with relationship satisfaction and intimacy.

Step Three


Regular and consistent self-compassion practices are crucial for creating lasting change and reaping the benefits over time.

It is important to challenge yourself to practice daily to get the following benefits:

1 — Neuroplasticity and Habit Formation: Regular practice helps you create new neural pathways in the brain leading to lasting changes in your behavior and mindset.

2 — Maintenance of Progress: Consistent practice is necessary to help you maintain your progress and prevent regression.

3 — Building Confidence and Motivation: Regular practice builds your confidence and motivation by providing opportunities for success and reinforcement.

4 — Integration into Daily Life: Regular practice allows you to integrate new behaviors or skills into your daily routines, making them more sustainable over the long term.

5 — Behavioral Automaticity: Regular practice can lead to the development of automatic or habitual behaviors, making it easier to sustain desired actions over time.

6 — Consolidation of Skills and Knowledge: Regular practice allows you to consolidate and integrate new skills and knowledge into your daily lives.

The Bonus Tip

Alignment Exercise

Studies have shown you feel higher satisfaction and experience greater well-being when you behave in ways consistent with your values.

Alignment Exercise is an effective way to align your actions with your values. This also helps in reducing cognitive dissonance. You feel confident in your capabilities and elevate your energy to fulfill your desires. Regularly remind yourself with visual cues to practice daily for at least 5 minutes in a peaceful environment.

The best practice for achieving faster results is to practice regularly before sleeping and after you wake up.

Mistakes to be Avoided

The Assumptions

1 — Challenge your irrational assumptions by examining the evidence supporting conflicting beliefs.

2 — Reflective writing about your inner conflicts improves your psychological well-being, clarifies your assumptions, and boosts your energy.

3 — CBT techniques not only help you to identify irrational assumptions but also help you understand the root causes of dissonance.

Your Next Step

“Every moment of your life is an opportunity to create, maintain, or destroy your real-time story.” — B R Amritaanshu Saroj

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As you address your inner conflicts, always remember that resolution is not merely the absence of turmoil but the presence of peace.
By confronting your inner adversaries with courage and compassion, you can reclaim your energy and rediscover the serenity that lies within. So, my lovely friend, I invite you to embark on this journey with an open heart and a curious mind. For in the pursuit of inner harmony lies the promise of a life well lived.
Will you take the first step?

I appreciate for taking the time to read till the end.

Thank you so much!

To Your Energetic Lifestyle,


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